Fighting, screaming, crying, closing up, or sarcasm. Whichever one you are while communicating, it matters.

The number one advice anyone gets in terms of a healthy relationship is communication, but what does that even mean? Women and men often differ in response.

Men are science, women are the arts. Focusing their thought on the facts and actual events happening men tend to avoid overthinking and jumping to conclusions while women focus on reading between the lines. This causes a barrier hindering complete communication. To talk about what you feel is one thing but you also have to know how to make someone understand you.

“You cannot make everyone think and feel as deeply as you do. This is your tragedy, because you understand them but they do not understand you,” says Daniel Saint.

He is wrong.

The reason you are not being understood is because you are putting up walls you dont see. For example, this might be going through a mans mind during an argument.

• She’s yelling at me because I did not think to text her throughout the day, but how could I know I was supposed to, I focus on my schoolwork all day and wait to give her my full attention when I can later.

But what comes out is, “Why didn’t you tell me to text you?”

What she hears is that you don’t think about her throughout the day. She might have a bad reaction to what you said and the argument would get nowhere. Being unintentionally secretive is so easy to do that you don’t even notice it. Sharing everything on your mind is how you can be genuine and truthful with someone, while men may not need all of the details, women do. It is harder to read in between the lines if all the information is given, eliminating the overthinking.

A woman might think,

• “He never calls me or reminds me he loves me as often as I do to him, it makes me feel like he doesn’t.

But it comes out like this, “You don’t love me why are you with me?”.

All in all communication is not optional, and there are a multitude of ways to do it. Whether you think you look silly explaining your feelings or not, you have to do so or deal with nothing being solved.